Self-doubt
sucks. Yet it chases us daily, looking to tear down our good feelings about
ourselves. Some days you keep ahead of it, and you feel great and kick the
world’s ass. Other days, it’s you that’s taking a beating – and hard.
I can’t tell you how
many times people have told me they know what to do – and even know how to do
it – but they just can’t get it done because of the paralyzing effect of
self-doubt. And when I say “people” I’m not talking about chronic
procrastinators or no-hope layabouts … I’m talking about people all the way up
the spectrum, from mildly successful to seven-figure earners.
Self-doubt can take the
wind out of anyone’s sails. And it does. Frequently.
Here’s how to put the
wind back in those sails no matter how you’re feeling today.
Today’s kick ass lesson
is a simple one – make a quick list of reasons you freaking rock at whatever it
is you’re about to do. Just take a moment – right now – and think about the
last few times you felt good about your abilities, and really pull those
memories back up.
Maybe you received a
really encouraging email or tweet from someone saying you did a great job, or
you really made a difference in their life. Maybe you passed an exam or
certification or practiced hard to gain a new skill. Maybe you won an
award, or fixed a problem, or maybe it’s as simple as you being there when
someone needed you.
Whatever it is, that’s
relevant to your struggle, think back to the victories and relive the emotion …
and put down the reasons you freaking rocked on a short list. An index
card you can carry with you. A post-it you stick to your laptop.
Lists prevent you from taking yourself for granted
When you’re good at
something, it’s generally something that’s important to you. Because it’s
important to you, it’s likely you have mentors or “heroes” that you look up to
– and since they’re so much “better” than you are, you downplay your skills and
talents and think they’re nothing special.
But they are. Those skills and talents can make things happen in
your life and the lives of others, and if you take them for granted, you’re
going to take weak action and doubt your abilities.
You’re going to compare
yourselves to others and think you’re not good enough. You’re going to think
about your past successes and tell yourself that it was just a fluke, or that
you don’t have it in you for a repeat performance.
Recognise the bullshit
you tell yourself by putting into words all the reasons you should be proud of
yourself. Make a list of the reasons you’re really good at what you do. And if
you believe you are only kind of good, make a list of all the reasons you’re at
least “good enough.” And if you’re just getting started, just make a list
of all the progress you’ve made.
Your Assignment:
Tell Me 3 Reasons You Rock At What You Do
You’re better at this
stuff than you give yourself credit for. Start giving yourself credit and
make your own ‘Reasons I Freaking Rock’ list. And when you start losing
steam and doubting yourself, come back to this list for some encouragement.
For now, leave a
comment and tell me 3 reasons you should be proud of yourself / your skills /
your progress. If you’re not comfortable putting your name, just put
‘Freaking-Rocker’ in the name field and no one will know who you are. Just put
it in writing, and get it done today.
Then write this list
down for yourself, and put it somewhere handy. Do it now – you’ll thank yourself for it.
That is all.
David
P.S. – Once you’re done,
spread the word so others can make their own ‘Reasons I Freaking Rock’
list. (Please forward this blog to at least one person today who needs
this kick!)
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